How do you know when someone really loves you?
15 Signs to Spot True Love!
In a world filled with dating apps, “talking stages,” and endless texting, knowing if someone really loves you can feel like trying to solve a mystery. Is it love, or just infatuation? In this comprehensive guide inspired by The Love Fool’s Survival Kit: 65 Things to Watch Out For by Parker Jones, we’ll help you spot the difference between true love and fleeting attraction. Here are 15 powerful signs that someone truly loves you and some tips on how to avoid being “the love fool”!
TL;DR: How to Know When Someone Really Loves You
- They Make You a Priority: Real love goes beyond convenience; they invest time and energy, even on busy days.
- They Respect Your Boundaries: True love respects personal space and boundaries without pressure or guilt.
- They Celebrate Your Wins: Your success is their joy, no jealousy, only genuine pride.
- They’re Consistent: You never feel unsure; they’re there for you, not just when it’s easy.
- They Show Vulnerability: Real love means showing their authentic self, flaws and all.
- They Resolve Conflicts Together: True commitment tackles issues with empathy, not avoidance.
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1. They Make You a Priority (Not Just a Convenience)
True love means going beyond the occasional text or last-minute plans. If someone makes an effort to include you in their life, invests time, energy, and thought into your relationship, you’re more than just an option. Consistent attention, even on busy days, shows they value you and want you as part of their world.
Red flag to watch: If they only show up when it’s convenient for them, you may be dealing with “situational love,” not the real thing.
2. They Show Up Consistently Not Just When It’s Easy
Consistency is the language of love. Are they reliable, keeping promises and following through on plans? When someone truly loves you, they’re there through the ups and downs. Love isn’t just about the highs, it’s about standing by each other, even when things get tough. Consistency breeds trust, and trust builds love.
Key takeaway: If they don’t follow through or suddenly disappear, they may not be fully committed.
3. They Respect Your Boundaries
Love and respect go hand-in-hand. A partner who truly loves you will honor your boundaries without pushing you to change for their comfort. They understand that personal boundaries protect your well-being and that respecting them is a way to show love. The Love Fool’s Survival Kit emphasizes how respect for boundaries is one of the strongest indicators of genuine care.
Watch out: If they pressure you to compromise on your values or make you feel guilty for setting limits, they may not be as invested as they seem.
4. They Make an Effort to Understand Your Passions and Interests
It’s a universal love language: genuine interest. If someone loves you, they go beyond “liking” your hobbies and take the time to get to know what matters to you. Whether it’s binge-watching your favorite series, attending your art shows, or learning about your hobbies, it’s their way of saying, “What’s important to you is important to me, too.”
Pro tip: Shared joy creates a bond that mere attraction can’t match, making this a powerful indicator of true affection.
5. They Celebrate Your Success
When someone genuinely loves you, they’re your biggest cheerleader. They celebrate your wins, big or small, without a hint of jealousy or competition. If they’re genuinely proud of your accomplishments and share in your joy, that’s love in action. The Love Fool’s Survival Kit by Parker Jones emphasizes the importance of having a partner who lifts you up and feels inspired by your success.
Red flag: If they constantly try to one-up you or seem indifferent to your achievements, their love may be less than sincere.
6. They Communicate Even When It’s Hard
Real love doesn’t avoid difficult conversations. Open communication is essential, and someone who loves you won’t shy away from addressing issues or listening to your concerns. A partner willing to talk through problems and work on solutions values the relationship enough to put in the effort.
Biggest giveaway: When someone loves you, they won’t avoid conflict; they’ll want to resolve it together.
7. They Encourage Your Growth
True love isn’t about holding you back or keeping you close at all costs. It’s about empowering you to grow. Whether it’s supporting your career, cheering you on at the gym, or encouraging you to pursue your dreams, someone who loves you wants to see you succeed. The Love Fool’s Survival Kit stresses that genuine love should make you feel uplifted, not limited.
Tip: If they make you feel guilty for evolving, it might mean they’re more interested in a version of you that doesn’t challenge them.
8. They Make You Feel Safe
When you’re with someone who truly loves you, you feel secure enough to be yourself without any masks or defenses. Love should never make you feel like you’re walking on eggshells or constantly questioning your worth. Safety is a critical component of true love; without it, a relationship lacks the foundation for trust and vulnerability.
What to avoid: If you feel anxious, unsure, or insecure with them, it’s a sign the relationship may not be as loving as it should be.
9. They Show You Vulnerability
Love means sharing more than just the fun times; it’s about revealing fears, insecurities, and flaws. If someone opens up to you and lets you see their authentic self, it shows they trust you deeply. This willingness to be vulnerable indicates they’re looking for a real connection and not just a casual fling.
Insight: Vulnerability is a powerful sign of trust and love. People don’t reveal their true selves to just anyone.
10. They Put in the Effort to Resolve Conflicts
Every relationship has its moments, but someone who loves you won’t let issues fester. If they’re willing to discuss misunderstandings and make compromises, it shows they care enough to work things out. According to The Love Fool’s Survival Kit, this green flag shows they’re in it for the long haul, not just the honeymoon phase.
Reminder: Real love isn’t about avoiding conflict; it’s about facing it with compassion and understanding.
11. They Support Your Independence
A partner who really loves you won’t be afraid of your independence; in fact, they’ll celebrate it. They understand that having a life outside the relationship is important for both of you. From girls’ night out to personal goals, someone who loves you knows that you don’t need to be glued at the hip to be close.
Key takeaway: Real love knows that independence strengthens the bond.
12. They Apologize When They’re Wrong
Apologies are one of the most underrated love languages. A partner who’s willing to admit their mistakes values the relationship enough to put ego aside. A sincere apology shows they’re invested in you and want to make things right, reinforcing the respect and consideration they have for you.
Red flag: If they never apologize or make you feel responsible for every issue, they might lack the maturity needed for a loving relationship.
13. They Make Future Plans With You
When someone loves you, they see you in their future and want to build a life together. Planning trips, discussing dreams, or even talking about where to spend the holidays are all indicators they’re committed to you for the long haul. Love isn’t just about the present, it’s about building toward a shared future.
Tip: It doesn’t have to be an elaborate vision of the future, but someone who loves you will think beyond just the moment.
14. They Remember the Little Things
Genuine love is attentive. When they remember the small details about you like your favorite snack, the movie that makes you cry, or the inside joke you share. It’s because they care about what makes you, you. These small gestures show they’re invested in the relationship and value your unique quirks.
Pro tip: The little things might not seem like much, but they speak volumes about the care and attention they have for you.
15. They Express Their Love in Both Words and Actions
Ultimately, true love isn’t just about saying “I love you,” it’s about showing it through actions, big and small. From making time to listen to you to supporting you in times of need, a partner who loves you will make sure their words and actions align.
Ultimate reminder: When words and actions align, you know it’s the real thing. Love isn’t just about grand declarations; it’s about consistently showing up for each other.
Ready to Find True Love?
If you’re tired of guessing games and wondering if you’re just a “love fool,” The Love Fool’s Survival Kit: 65 Things to Watch Out For by Parker Jones is the perfect guide for you. This insightful book explores what real love looks like and teaches you how to recognize when someone’s intentions are genuine. Filled with insights on relationships, boundaries, and spotting red flags, it’s a must-have for anyone looking to find love that’s real and lasting.
Don’t leave love to chance. With The Love Fool’s Survival Kit, you’ll have the tools to find a partner who genuinely respects, values, and cherishes you. Take the guesswork out of love, learn how to spot the signs, and make sure you’re giving your heart to someone who deserves it.
Grab your copy of The Love Fool’s Survival Kit today and discover what true love really looks like!
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